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Hello summer time! Feels good to have the warm sun on your face. Even though the winter's aren't as bad as when I was a kid, there is something about the constant clouds that can depress a person!

I have a friend who started her career as a beauty pageant contestant and became Miss Latina. She then moved to Italy and started working as an assistant to a researcher studying solar and hydro power and it's uses beyond hydro use. Now she started a children's charity and wrote to me about how upset she is because she supports others, but her friends don't show up to her events.

She stated it was a 'natural' and 'healthy' feeling to get upset. Somehow I would disagree since heart attacks arise from those emotions, and unless 'a heart attack a day keeps the doctor away' is true, I would have to argue.

The interesting thing about being upset is that it is like fear..it doesn't exist! Literally! Being angry is an emotion built from expectations meeting disappointment. None of those two thought processes have anything to do with reality. They are built from you in your own head.

If you can imagine the last time you got upset at someone or something, chances are, the expectation you built was from YOUR value system and expectations, none of which were promised to you. I remember when I was 16, my goal was to be a millionaire at 20. When it didn't happen, I gave myself one more year..it didn't happen. I was so frustrated and angry, I went into a depression of partying all night and sleeping all day. No work whatsoever. Well, someone said that working was the only thing I could control. The commitment I give myself is my only expectation, other than that, I had to ride the wave.

When you build up expectations from people because YOU think they should meet them, ask them! Acceptance is the biggest gift you can give yourself since you are working in circumstances you can't always control. A friend of mine showed up to a party I had 2 hours late and the night before had promised me music and assistance. I was furious. Well, no, I had no right to be since MY expectation was that he would do what he said even though he has never been on time for any other meeting. The minute I accepted it, I was ok and just 'rode the wave'.

Is anyone around you really worth having a heart attack over?