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A woman I told this theory to, thought I should share this on the group, since she explained a lot of girls are going through this and it MAY clear certain things up for them. I didn't know this until I studied human dynamics through hypnosis and figured it out.The one thing a lot of women state is 'I'm not ready for a relationship'. Actually, every human being is ready for a relationship, not only that, but humans NEED relationships to survive. We are social creatures. Now that being said, there are some who are addicted to relationships and can be fondly referred to as 'serial daters'. They are never without a bf or gf. That is from lack of self confidence and self worth.However, getting back to those who think they aren't ready. In 99% of the cases, this is a result of the word association. Relationship to them means stress, depression, anger, betrayal and loss of power over themselves. This is where the interesting part comes. Why do we choose people that are like that? If I were to change the association of the word to: Love, Security, Touch, Happiness, I bet you are ready for a relationship now!Well, contrary to common belief, we don't choose people who are the opposite, and opposites don't attract, we choose people that are exactly the same as us. Think of the story of Jekyll and Hyde. It is the same thing. We ALL have two sides to us. The people we get into relationships with, represent the personality traits of the other side of US!Not following? Try this: What you repress, your mate will express.If you are with a liar, cheater or abuser, you may not do it outwardly, but think of how you have subtlety done it to others..or even yourself! You lie to yourself when you know you should get out, but choose to convince yourself you are happy, is that not a lie to yourself? You may cheat mentally and or have physically cheated on a past bf.The solution? Very simple. Figure out the traits you didn't like most in your partner. Focus on yourself and see what you did to someone else that was the same trait. You have to be honest with yourself. No one else will know, but you.Once you have done this, make a conscious effort not to repeat that trait again to anyone including yourself. If it was that fact that you hated your partner lying to you, then what lie did you tell someone? Your boss? Your friend? if it was cheating or abusing, then who did you cheat on? Remember, it's not only physical or as plain as sex, cheating is cheating. Also this works in the positive, so think of the positives that you like in yourself..very important!Watch the results. When you bring whatever it is to the surface and make an effort not to repeat, it, the right person will come who may not be perfect, but definitely not have those qualities. And because you will have a different word association with 'relationship', you will be in a better state to try again!By not doing this exercise, you reinforce the negative word associations and will find yourself constantly back in the same dead end relationship. Eventually you will assume that is your fate and look at others with envy and wonder why you can't have it.Now you can. Have a great day