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I was thinking this morning of what to write about. It seemed like I was
trying too hard, since the answer was hitting me over and over again. Three
people experienced tragedy today. Two of them you don't know, one is
an author of
mine and the other a friend. The third is singer/actress Jennifer Hudson.

All have gone through serious tragedies of loss of loved ones. All happened
on the same day. Maybe when you read this, it will make sense to you, but when
you go through it, that is when the test will happen of whether you can live
it or not.

Physics proved that what goes up, must come down. For every action there is
a reaction. This applies to all areas of life, not just over matter. This
occurs in relationships, emotions, and life. We see what we want to
see based on
our ego, judgment and past experiences. I see a clown and I smile because it
brings back memories of my parents taking me to the circus. My friend sees a
clown and almost goes into a panic attack since her past experience involved
a clown going up to her stroller and scaring the crap out of her.

Death is the same.

Ms. Hudson experienced losing on American Idol, coming back with the movie
Dream Girls, outshining Beyone and winning the Oscar. Her life going up and up,
she is hit with the tragedy of her mother and family being killed by
gunshots.

My author has been hit with her mother having lupus, going broke and living
on the floor of a friends LA apartment and breaking up with a boyfriend of
many years. This is just the tip of the iceburg! She has gone through way more
than that! Then she starts writing her book, her best friend dies, she
finishes the book, her other best friend dies, leaving her alone.

Now the secret I will share with you:

For EVERY action there is a reaction. So, what did she learn from it? Even
through death, there is a positive that is taking place. We choose not to see
it. What is the lesson? It's there. You just have to clear your vision to see
it. When she called me crying and not even able to take a breath, we calmly
talked about it and the lesson for her was that both friend died because of
the demons of their past experiences taking hold of them. She could have been
the one dead very easily. But instead, she is able to see that her life has
some meaning and that she is not fully taking advantage of the opportunity she
has to make a difference. All of a sudden, silence on the phone and then her
voice actually went up! She understood that instead of crying over her
friend's loss, she should be saying thank you that her best friend
didn't try and
pull her down, but in fact is trying to motivate her to see the light and move
forward!

Jennifer Hudson has a lesson to learn from all this. She will have to learn
it for herself. But whatever it is, if she is able to clear the negative
emotions and the grey clouds blocking her vision, she will become a stronger,
wiser, more compassionate person that she was yesterday. This is the type of
event that can scar you forever, or move you to a level of greatness
you hadn't
even seen in yourself.

Don't run from the pain. Instead, turn it around to fuel your mission in
life! Not only will you be happier, but the people you touch after
that will be
happier and most importantly, the loss will now be a blessing and remembrance.